Posted by on January 8, 2009
A “traditional” funeral involves the laying out of a casketed body for friends and family to pay respects. The casket itself may be either “open” or “closed”. An open casket is one in which the casket lid is left open so that the deceased is visible throughout the ceremony. A closed casket ceremony means the ceremony is held in the presence of the casket, but the casket lid is closed. The decedent’s family decides which option they prefer after considering the manner of death and condition of the body.
During a traditional funeral, some type of remembrance ceremony is held. This ceremony gives friends an opportunity to “say goodbye” to the person who has died and comfort surviving family members. The funeral ceremony may be open to anyone that wishes to come, or it may be restricted to invited friends and family members.
With a traditional funeral, the body is removed from the place of death and transported to the funeral home. At the funeral home, the body is embalmed and cosmetically repaired (i.e. the hair is combed, cleaned, and set and makeup, if needed, is applied). After the body is prepared, it is laid out in a casket.
Usually, a viewing or visitation ceremony is held the night before the actual funeral service. This gives friends and well-wishers an opportunity to pay their respects even if they can’t attend the actual funeral service (which is usually held during normal work hours). If the casket lid is closed during this time, it’s called a “visitation” ceremony; if the casket lid remains open during the ceremony, it is known as a “viewing.”
The actual funeral ceremony is usually held the day after the viewing ceremony. This is the formal ceremony in which the eulogy is given, often by a religious official.
Immediately following the funeral ceremony, the body is transported to its final resting place – usually a cemetery or mausoleum. A committal service (i.e. separate service held at the grave side) may also be held right before the casketed body is buried or entombed.
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Posted by on December 8, 2008
Choosing certain types of funeral or cremation arrangements can eliminate many unnecessary funeral costs. Choosing wisely will prevent you from being charged for lots of “extras” no one told you about.
Since most families do not plan funerals very often, they usually don’t realize what’s included (or excluded) in the decisions they make. All too often a family simply agrees to the funeral director’s recommendations – only to end up surprised when their final bill is 30% higher than expected.
Even though many of the goods and services offered by a funeral home are priced on an individual basis, certain selections you make will automatically trigger additional costs. Unfortunately, most families don’t find out about these additional costs until after the service is over and they get the funeral director’s bill.
Here’s an example of how this works:
When meeting with the funeral director he might suggest a “traditional” funeral priced at $500. You agree….thinking $500 isn’t too bad. However, what you didn’t realize (and what the funeral director failed to mention) is that a “traditional” funeral also means that you will need:
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embalming (another $500)
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casket ($1,500)
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viewing or visitation ($500)
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cemetery space ($1,000)
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open & closing the grave site ($750)
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outer burial container ($1,000)
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headstone ($1,500)
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announcing the funeral in a newspaper ($250)
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use of a hearse ($200)
….so when the funeral director said the “traditional” funeral service costs $500 – he meant it would cost $500 to hold the actual 45 minute funeral service. But, by choosing a “traditional” funeral service, you were also agreeing to purchase all of the other things that are required to conduct a traditional funeral.
In this case your total cost would be closer to $7,700. This is a realistic example (the average traditional funeral costs nearly $8,000). Simply understanding what’s included in the decisions you make can help you avoid such a nasty financial surprise.
You can use a resource like the Funeral $aver’s Kit to learn about the types of funeral, burial, and cremation arrangements from which you can choose. Section 2 of the kit identifies costs associated with each service and clearly shows which expenses will be included (or excluded) based on the choices you make.
Generally, your least expensive options (in order of increasing price) are:
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medical donation
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direct cremation
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immediate burial
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cremation with service
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traditional funeral
Click to learn more about the Funeral Saver’s Kit.
